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Young and love - attitudes of parents and children


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CONTENTS



Introduction 3

I. Psychological features of early youthful age 4

II. The analysis of results of questionnaire 6

III. Conclusion 10

Bibliography 11

Supplements 12



















































INTRODUCTION


The period of a youth represents very important and responsible stage of development and formation of individual. An early youth is the period when basically physical development and puberty of an organism comes to the end. Many physiological functions are stabilized. By the end of an early youth disproportions in physical development of a body and finitenesses disappear, and formation of the corporal constitution peculiar to the adult person in general comes to the end. Young men and girls quickly mature and it is time for the first love. It frightens parents very much. They are afraid such formation, that children keep away from them. In some cases between parents and children there are serious conflicts in this occasion, but sometimes their relationship do not change.

It is necessary to understand, that relationship between parents and children during the first youthful love depends on both sides.

The purpose of my research work is to compare the attitude of children and parents to such phenomenon, as the first youthful love and drawing up of the generalized picture of these attitudes.

Problems of my research work are:

  • to lead questioning among pupils and their parents

  • to analyse obtained data

  • to make the generalized picture of attitudes of children and parents to the first youthful love

Methods of this research work are:

  • the method of questioning

  • the method of the statistical analysis

  • the method of the analysis of the literature



















CHAPTER I. Psychological Features of Early Youthful Age


Early youthful age is an initial stage of formation of social, political, religious, cultural, economic and other positions of the person. Absence of sociopolitical reference points, discrepancy of opinions, necessity and difficulties in realization of a world outlook choice - here is characteristic for the child at this age. An early youth is the beginning of practical realization of serious vital plans. It is difficult to find the answer to questions: and , a parity between real and ideal in a youth, representation of senior pupils about themself in the past, the present and the future. The aspiration to construction of attitudes with adults on the basis of equality is shown. Value of social and economic position of family increases. It influences with whom of the young man and the girl have friendly relationships much more. The destiny of young men is influenced by structure of their family, an educational level of parents, character of mutual relationship between members of family. Style of mutual relationship with parents has significant influence. Relative stabilization of an internal and external life, normalization of attitudes till time of leaving school. The basic features of psychology of the senior pupil are:

· The Intellectual maturity

· Registration of moral principles

· Male/Female differentiation

· Professional self-determination

· Formation of system of social installations

· Contradictions of character

· It is time for the first love, romantic and intimate relationship

It is typical for the youth:

  1. The enhanced attention to internal world of the person;

  2. These thoughts and reflections not only about itself. These thoughts are about people, about the world, about philosophical and household problems. All of them personally mention and excite the senior pupils.

The early youthful age is occurrence of intimate emotional relationship between young men and girls; it is time for the first love. Girls have this relationship a little bit earlier and have deeper character, than young men. Such kind of relationship forms personal qualities of fidelity, attachment, the personal responsibility for destiny of the dear person.

Occurrence of feeling of love is connected with several circumstances. First, it is puberty which comes to the end in a youth. Secondly, it is desire to have the close friend with whom it would be possible to speak on the most secrets and exciting themes. Thirdly, it is natural human need for emotional attachment.

During this period of time attitudes of young men and girls with adults usually vary, they become more equal, less disputed, than they were at teenage age. In reply to requirements of the adults, concerning their appearance, work, training at the school, enamoured young men and girls quite often show significant complaisance. These years the majority of young men and girls begin to understand that adults wish them goods.












































CHAPTER II. The Analysis of Results of Questionnaire


Interrogation was spent among pupils of 10th and their parents (only 20 interrogated families).

On the first question of the questionnaire “Do you worry (about your child) during the first youthful love?” 45 % of children answered negatively, 35 % respondents trust their feelings and 20 % answered in the affirmative. Parents answered 5 %, 58 % and 37 % accordingly.

It means, that children concern to this phenomenon easy enough, but not indifferent. Parents worry for their children, but in the majority trust them.

On the second question “Do you agree, that relationship will prevent your children to study during the first youthful love?” Nobody of children did not answer in the affirmative, 58 % of negatively and 42 % answered“ yes, but I hope, that I shall consult ”. Parents answered 30 %, 10 % and 60 % accordingly.

In this case we can see absolutely usual picture: children have relationship with their partner, but they understand it can influence on their study. Parents realize it too, but it is more than half of respondents trust their children. Thus, there are less pressure on children that reduces chance of occurrence of conflicts.

On the third question “Were your relationship with parents/children changed during the first youthful love?” 70 % of children answered negatively, 25 % did not notice especial changes and 5 % answered in the affirmative. Parents answered 55 %, 35 % and 10 % accordingly.

It shows that relationship between children and parents do not especially change, therefore neither these nor those do not have stress from change of relationship. It excludes conflicts.

On the fourth question “Do your parents/you have any influence on your partner during the first youthful love?” Nobody of children answered in the affirmative, 80 % of negatively and 20 % agreed, that parents delicately gave them some advice. Nobody of parents answered in the affirmative, 50 % and 50 % accordingly.

In this case we can see full understanding of parents and absence of a manipulation of children. Parents do not interfere with attitudes of the children but only correct them and help them to do something correctly.

On the fifth question “Do your children ask any advice from parents during the first youthful love?” 70 % of children answered negatively, and 20 % asked some advice, but is rare and 10 % in the affirmative. Parents answered 70 %, 25 % and

5 % accordingly. The reasons also can be a lot: someone hesitates, someone does not want to break relationship with a partner, someone does not ask the help, and it is not required for someone.

On the sixth question “Is it necessary for you to discuss a question about sex with parents/children during the first youthful love?” 65 % of children answered negatively, 20 % tried to ask advice of delicately and 15 % in the affirmative. Parents answered 20 %, 25 % and 55 % accordingly. We can see quite natural picture: probably, children consider themselves as adults and do not consider to discuss such themes with parents. Many children avoid such conversations because of constraint or because they have already started to live a sexual life and hope, that their parents will not know about it. But someone does not have such relationship with parents. From here also occur early undesirable pregnancy, because of ignorance and irresponsibility. But we shall notice that 75 % of parents are unaffected to this question, and it pleases. They wish to help their child to be well informed about these problems, because sexual education depends on parents.

On the seventh question “Are you afraid, that relationships during the first youthful love prevent your child to choose a right way for living? (HIGH SCHOOL, a trade?) ” 85 % of children answered negatively, 10 % hope, that will consult and 5 % answered in the affirmative. Parents answered 55 %, 35 % and 10 %, accordingly.

In this case we can see calmness of children for their further life. The majority of the senior pupils consider, that their partner cannot affect on their choice of a higher educational institution, a trade, etc. Parents, in turn, also do not show anxiety. It considerably reduces chances of occurrence of conflicts.

On the eighth question “Do your parents like your partner?” 59 % agreed, what not all qualities suit for their parents, 35 % of children answered in the affirmative and 6 % negatively. Parents answered 50 %, 35 % and 15% accordingly. The majority of conflicts between parents and children occur because parents do not accept a choice of their child.

We can see, that the part of "unsatisfied" parents is of small account, it means they criticize the elect of the child so they quarrel less often.

On the ninth question “Is it important for you an example of your family during the first youthful love?” 45 % of children answered negatively, 35 % consider it is important, but not in all and 20 % answered in the affirmative. Parents answered 20 %, 45 % and 35 % accordingly. It means that parents realize that their family attitudes are a certain example for their child. If parents care about each other also the child, starts to build the same attitudes, and will repeat actions of parents. Subconsciously a certain model of behaviour will be formed. But if parents constantly swear, and the child excepts for roughness concerning each other heard nothing, there is a probability, that he/she will be rough. But there is also the other variant: he/she will be the contrary tender and gentle with the lovely and dear person.

On the tenth question “Do you often have a heart-to-heart talk during the first youthful love?” 60 % of children answered negatively, 30 % talk, but it is rare and 10 % answered in the affirmative. Parents answered 30 %, 55 % and 15 % accordingly.

It shows that children are discharged of parents. Such situation gives the rise to misunderstanding, hence, and conflicts.

On the eleventh question “Does your child talk with you about close relationship during the first youthful love?” 65 % of children answered negatively, 25 % talk, but it is rare and 10 % answered in the affirmative. Parents answered 50 %, 30 % and 20 % accordingly. It is more than half of children do not talk about their relationship to their parents in general. Certainly, it is their private right - to tell or not. But why so it turns out? Probably, relationships between children and parents are not such confidential, probably, business in constraint of children. Probably, parents simply do not have time to listen to stories how “Ivan pulled Sveta for plait, and she hit him by the textbook, and he hit Kolya, and Kolya tried to understand him, and here He appeared reconciled everybody! ”

On the twelfth question “Is your child ready to be responsible for his/her relationship during the first youthful love?” 50 % of children answered in the affirmative, 40 % are ready, but not in all questions and 10 % answered negatively. Parents answered 30 %, 50 % and 20 % accordingly.

In this case we can see quite responsible attitude of children to their partner. For them it is not simply to meet the person of an opposite sex it is a serious process. Parents divide opinion of their children, they agree, that their child has been growing and can bear the responsibility not only for himself, but also for the his/her partner.

On the thirteenth question “Do you consider it is necessary to acquaint your parents with your partner?” 53 % agreed that it would be desirable, but it is unnecessary, 26 % answered negatively and 21 % of children answered in the affirmative. Parents answered 40 %, 10 % and 50 % accordingly. The majority of children wish to acquaint parents with their elect.

It again shows on a high level of responsibility and gravity of relationships with the lovely person. Parents in a greater degree, rather than children, wish to get acquainted with the elect of the child. It speaks that their parents have an interest in the matter. They wish to know, with whom their child spends time, who is this person.

On the fourteenth question “Do you consider it is necessary to spend time together during the first youthful love? (parents, the child, his/her partner) ” 45 % of children answered negatively, 30 % had a doubt, that it was good idea and 25 % answered in the affirmative. Parents answered 30 %, 15 % and 55 % accordingly.

In this case we can see a disagreement: children do not wish to spend time together with parents and their partner, and their parents on the contrary want. It is very good from parents’ side; in fact it will be easier for them to understand each other. Besides quite often youthful love develops into adult feelings, and the elect can become for the child the partner for the whole life.














CONCLUSION


To sum-up the data received by the questionnaire we can see a certain picture of the attitude of children and parents to such phenomenon, as the first youthful love.

Parents refer to this period easy enough, trusting children, objectively estimate a situation concerning of study and choosing a future profession. They do not press on their children, do not interfere into their relationships, but only give some delicate advice. Relationships between children and parents do not change, thus, neither these, nor those do not have a stress. Parents refer to a question of sex very responsibly, ready to support children and give efficient advice. Children seldom talk heart-to-heart with parents, talk about their experiences. For this purpose they have friends. Parents quite tolerantly refer to a choice of their child. They understand that relationship of their child with his /her partner can be serious and long, therefore they wish to get acquainted with the partner and to spend with him/her some time. Young men and girls, in turn, do not consider that it is necessary to intervene in their relationship their parents, but nevertheless they are sure in gravity of their intentions.






























BIBLIOGRAPHY



1. R.S.Nemov "Psychology". Moscow, 2004.

2. http: // deti.mail. ru

3. http: // natahaus.ru

4. Medical portal EUROLAB




























































SUPPLEMENT























The questionnaire for children

The given interrogation is spent anonymously. Please, put a tick in a column with the chosen variant of the answer.

The answer should be only ONE.


1. Do you worry during the first youthful love?


2. Do you agree that relationships will prevent your study during the first youthful love?


3. Were your relationships with parents changed during the first youthful love?


4. Do your parents have any influence on your partner during the first youthful love?


5. Do you ask any advice from your parents during the first youthful love?


6. Is it necessary for you to discuss a question about sex with parents during the first youthful love?


7. Are you afraid that relationships during the first youthful love prevent you to choose a right way for living? (HIGH SCHOOL, a trade?)


8. Do your parents like your partner?

9. Is it important for you an example of your family during the first youthful love?


10. Do you often have a heart-to-heart talk during the first youthful love?


11. Do you talk with parents about close relationship during the first youthful love?


12. Are you ready to be responsible for your relationship during the first youthful love?


13. Do you consider it is necessary to acquaint your parents with your partner?


14. Do you consider it is necessary to spend time together during the first youthful love? (parents, the child, your partner)





The questionnaire for parents

The given interrogation is spent anonymously. Please, put a tick in a column with the chosen variant of the answer.

The answer should be only ONE.


1. Do you worry about your child during the first youthful love?


2. Do you agree that relationship will prevent your children study during the first youthful love?


3. Were your relationships with child changed during the first youthful love?


4. Do you have any influence on your child’s partner during the first youthful love?


5. Does your child ask any advice from you during the first youthful love?


6. Is it necessary for you to discuss a question about sex with child during the first youthful love?


7. Are you afraid, that relationships during the first youthful love prevent your child to choose a right way for living? (HIGH SCHOOL, a trade?)


8. Do you like your child’s partner?


9. Is it important for you an example of your family during the first youthful love?


10. Do you often have a heart-to-heart talk during the first youthful love?


11. Do you talk with child about close relationship during the first youthful love?


12. Is your child ready to be responsible for his/her relationship during the first youthful love?


13. Do you consider it is necessary to meet with your child’s partner?


14. Do you consider it is necessary to spend time together during the first youthful love? (parents, the child, his/her partner)



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